February Issue

Tender Hotel
Love, Care & Discomfort


Tender Hotel invites you to 24 hours of Love, Care & Discomfort, February 20th (spanning 19th-21st) 2021.

A remote get-away sitting just on the edge of the physical world, the Tender Hotel is an experience like no other. Over 50 rooms and spaces designed by an international team of artisans, called Hotel Residents. We await your pleasure for one day only. Tender Hotel is a unique gifted experience – a home away from home where you remote-control your atmosphere by choosing from a wide selection of experiences tailored just for you.

Pack your bags using our recommended Tender Packing List (see below) to achieve maximum satisfaction.

The above languaging is an artifice. It is based on a luxury hotel advertisement. Despite our best intentions, we are going to fail and can not give you everything you need.
Many offerings are non-verbal, and when spoken language is included, it is likely to be in English. Closed captions will be provided but not reliably, meaning they will be in main spaces only and may include errors.


opens its doors with a 30 min ceremonial opening event at
11.30, 19 Feb (PST) | 14:30, 19 Feb (EST) | 19:30, 19 Feb (GMT) | 20:30, 19 Feb (CET) | 6:30, 20 Feb (DST).

(Please bring ribbon and scissors)

The Hotel Facilities will then be accessible for 24 hours from
12.00, 19 Feb (PST) | 15:00, 19 Feb (EST) | 20:00, 19 Feb (GMT) | 21:00, 19 Feb (CET) | 7:00, 20 Feb (DST).

Check-ins are on the hour – every hour. Come back as many times as you wish.

Through the 24 hours, please always arrive ON the hour (we would really struggle with late arrivals). We then introduce you to the Tender Hotel’s navigation, temperature and provide the links to the off-site facilities. 

Between some activities you can come and go, as you please. Others invite your stay without drop-ins. You can of course depart anytime.

Please, bring your packed luggage (you can find the Tender Packing List below) with the items of which are used in different activities. 

Here you can find all the Resident Artisans‘ activities, and which hours they are active, as well as a chart of different time zones. You could print these out to create your own visiting plan. 

We are looking forward to welcoming you in Tender Hotel at any point, and hopefully frequently during the 24 hours.

Resident Artisans’ activities

Create your visiting plan, please select your time zone.

Tender Packing List

Things you may wish to bring.

Welcome to the Tender Hotel. Below is a packing list for things that may be of use during your stay. 

We put this together for you to start your visit NOW. now.
Right. Where. You. Are.
Let packing be a way to take stock.
We propose this as a ritual moment to mark our initial encounter.

Packing list:

— Teabag
— A tea cup
— A candle
— A special cloth/napkin
— Something scented
— Soap
— Embroidery thread
— Matchbook or matches
— Something that fits in one hand and feels good to hold
— A handful of dirt
— A pen and paper
— A playing card
Joy and Pleasure packet cards (print out the attached) 

Lay everything out. 

Spend some time with the process of collecting – what object companions and memories do you encounter along the way as you source these? 

Re-familiarize yourself with the objects. Perhaps hold them? Smell them? Feel them?
Each suggestion has been considered as a maybe – as an in-case-you-need-it support team of your things – as this might happen, why not? Resource gathered by members of the Tender Hotel team.

Setting the temperature

Our invitations to hosts and guests at Hotel Tender.

Tender Hotel is a place of warmth, care, connection, consent and love. We would like you to meet us there. This is the way of the Tender Hotel.

All the room hosts have agreed to hold space in this way. All guests are invited to enter in this way.

There is room for discomfort. There is NO space in Hotel Tender for bigotry, discrimination, exclusion or hate. If these are brought in to any room, guests may be asked to leave, at the hosts’ discretion. 

Our receptionists will be here to hear. 

Our intentions are to facilitate safety, yet we cannot guarantee all Tender Hotel spaces will feel safe to everyone. Please take care of your needs, ask questions and express feelings within the parameters of each space you are in.

Inside Hotel Tender, you are invited to say YES to things you want and NO to things you don’t want. You choose as you desire in the moment.

Consent is:

  • Freely Given (not coerced or pressured – your choices are your own).
  • Reversible (you may stop participating and leave at any point).
  • Informed (unless the room is marked “Squat”, hosts state what to expect in each room).
  • Engaged (everyone in the room has made an active choice to be present and connect).
  • Specific (each agreement is in the here and now).

Please enter and leave the space as you would wish to find it.

Additional particulars:

  • You can leave a room at any time – re-entering may not be possible.
  • Curious Mappers are operating with our consent. Guests’ movements may be noted, with anonymity.
  • If a room is for adults only, we will state this before entry.
  • Content warnings will be provided for subject matter that hosts feel may be traumatic or upsetting. The stimulus aims for connection that may evoke feelings – we invite you to carry those feelings and stay with us, or leave, or speak to the concierge in the Tender Hotel lobby.
  • If you choose to share your experience with others we would love you to credit the Tender Hotel creators and contributors.
Scan me Tender

We would love to meet you there, please share widely to entice Tender Hotel Visitors from all over the globe. 

With love, care, and discomfort,
Your Team Tender
Jenny Wilson, Lowri Evans, Mariana Renthel, Mary Oliver, Meg Foley, Raquel Ro, Rivca Rubin

Tender Hotel Love, Care & Discomfort is supported by
Kulturreferat Landeshauptstadt München
Arts University Bournemouth
Universidad de Antioquia – Facultad de Artes
Upwording and assistance from
Islington Mill Associated Artists Alumni